Monday, January 26, 2009

She says

She's mad, she says that we don't do it as much as we used to. I say the same thing I always do, "I'm sorry".

This is the cycle we go through. Being married certainly has its plus and minuses. Sometimes you lose sight of the most important things like what brought you together. Sex never used to be an issue, that's because we had it often. As soon as we decreased the frequency is when the majority of our problems started. And the majority of the problems started when she was pregnant. Our son is 4 now, parenthood hasn't been inundated with the same midnight trysts, rolls in the hay for 4, 6, 8 hours, or the inability to speak from grunting and screaming. The first two months we were together I spent so much time on my back and my knees that I forgot how to walk.

To some it would seem the foundation of our relationship was built on sex. Yes, it was a huge part of our self expression but there's more beyond the physical. It just seems that sex was the one thing we'd always do together and as a result, sex is now a huge part of our marriage. Not having sex feels awkward but it's something you have to learn how to manage. If you don't learn to cope than the results are anger, frustration, and hurt feelings. I've learned to cope but my wife has not.

We make sacrifices, we have to. When you love someone if you're too tired, if you have a headache, or if your boss literally consumed your soul that morning in a meeting, you still put out. I'll always put out for her. I'm just trying to find a way to help her cope for the times that I'm not strong enough to sacrifice an hour of sleep for an hour of sex. And until I do, I will be saying "I'm sorry" a lot more often.

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Valentine's Day

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